A few months ago a client asked me what my fitness goals were for this year – what training programs or fitness challenges was I taking on in 2017.
And, for a moment, I didn’t know what to say.
Well, because I am currently on a journey of healing, nourishing and being compassionate towards my body and my mind.
I am on a journey of accepting that ‘good is good enough” and living by the mantra “progress not perfection” (which, let me say, is a huge challenge for a perfectionist!)
When my client asked me this question I really was floored for a moment, and almost a bit embarrassed. I couldn’t answer with “I’m focused on running my first City to Surf marathon” or “I’m training for Tough Mudder”, because those are the last things I will be doing in the foreseeable future. That is not to say they are challenges I don’t want to take on. However, this year is not the year.
So, what is my focus in 2017?
Well, the focus for me personally this year is to ‘Honour Myself’.
But, I hear you saying, what on earth does that mean?
To me, to ‘honour myself’ means:
- To schedule “me-time” every week, and a little every day
- To listen to my body more and by tuning into what it needs on a daily basis
- To nourish my body with food and movement, rather than punishment and annihilation
- To continue with self-love practices, such as daily movement, meditation and personal affirmations
- To well and truly deal with my inner critic!
- To spend time quality time with my beautiful family
- To continue to embrace, nourish and develop my passion so I never have to work another day in my life
As a fitness professional I have always believed that I should be able to do everything I ask my clients to do, and then so much more physically. To be so much stronger mentally, and have this nutrition thing down pact!
However, let’s face it – I am human! And I am far from perfect!
And, I have come to appreciate that I also have a responsibility to lead by example, and be honest and genuine with those that I work with about who I am, my journey as a women and mother and what I have learnt along the way.
Ok, so that all sounds good, I hear you say. But how do I ‘honour myself’ when I’ve got little ones to look after, a house to keep under control, a relationship to nurture and a job that I have to go to?
Are you really great at scheduling all of your children’s appointments, and are always considering your partners work schedules and commitments?
And, possibly, are you always making sure you have put into your calendar all the times that you are helping a family member?
Or are you one of those wonderful friends that will happily change your schedule to help someone out but never to spend some time on you?
Well, it’s time to also schedule some time for the most important person in your life – YOU!
So, look at your schedule, and put time in for you!
Yes, keep it simple! This morning all I managed was 10 minutes of meditation before I started my day. But, it was 10 minutes of time for me, and, in my book, that’s a win!
Time for you really doesn’t have to be much time at all. Like I did this morning, wake up 10 minutes earlier to do some meditation or simply start making ‘me time’ a habit by taking a few deep breathes before the chaos begins.
When your little one goes for a nap, take 15 minutes for a cup of tea. Or, after putting the kids to bed, take 10 minutes to have a stretch.
It doesn’t have to be complicated or take a lot of time. It just needs to be something that makes you feel more alive, more energized and it’s yours!
Don’t listen to that inner critic!
You know, the one that sits on your shoulder, or whispers in your ear, just when you’ve finally taken a moment for yourself, or you’re making plans to nourish your body well and not just that of your kids.
It’s the one that tells you you’re not a good mum because you weren’t there for every single moment of your child’s life, or, that says to you ‘why bother starting to look after yourself now because you won’t stick to it’!
He’s pretty powerful that inner critic! But he needs to be smacked in the face and told to shut the f*%k up!
Wrap yourself in compassion, and remember to tell yourself, and that inner critic, that you are awesome and you do deserve to be healthy and happy!
And that doing something for you is OK! Actually, it’s more than ok – it’s absolutely essential!
Ask yourself what truly makes you happy, relaxed or energized
The time you take for yourself should be enjoyable and make you feel alive and light.
It should be all about you and what makes you happy!
If you love to exercise, then find a type of movement that you enjoy. There are so many options out there.
And, that’s how MumaTime evolved here at MumaBubs. I realised that the beautiful ladies that were coming to my sessions absolutely loved the ability to bring their children.
But, for the ones that started coming Saturday mornings without their children, they remembered just how energizing and uplifting just 1-hour per week to do a workout without their little one’s around was for them.
So, if you’re looking for some time to yourself, while using movement to energise, uplift and strengthen, come and join us at our MumaTime session on Saturday morning at 8.00am.
But, whatever it is, it should be just for you, and it should be a priority!
And, speaking from experience over the past 3 months, taking just that little bit of time to honour yourself will have a positive effect on all aspects of your life.
Go on beautiful lady, take a little time to honour yourself –
you need it and you deserve it…
“Setting time aside to take care of yourself is not being selfish.
It is honouring yourself”